For the last month and a half I’ve been thinking about the last 10 years of my life; my accomplishments, perceived failures, relationships that ended and new ones that were created. The peaks and valleys, within this decade, have left me with the question, “What do you really want?” This simple, yet complex, question is one that baffles the minds of many. If you ask a person what they want in life, they will almost always give you the same answer: I just want to be happy. But what does happiness look like? Is it more money, a bigger home, a better job, debt freedom, more vacations or to be married? Whatever it is, I believe it is necessary to get very honest with yourself and figure out what is and possibly what is no longer serving you. Here’s a few ways that I’ve found VERY beneficial to setting goals for your life and crushing them!
What do you want
I know this may sound like a very simple question, but what do you want to experience in your lifetime? Figuring out what you want is the first step to any manifestation. Once you’re able to articulate it, create a clear vision of what it will look like, and, most importantly, how it will FEEL once you have it.
What has worked
Going into a new decade, I decided to do some serious self-reflection. I took a survey of my life and had to figure out if my thoughts, words and personal deeds were in alignment with what I wanted to create. I want to challenge you to do the same. Once you know what you want, make a list of the things in your life that are currently working for you to bring that desired goal into fruition. For example, if you want to lose 10 pounds you may have discovered that; drinking 2 gallons of water, limiting your calorie intake to 2500 calories and exercising in the morning by 6am allows you to lose upwards of 2 pounds a week.
What isn’t Working
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different result. One of the hardest things for most people to do is to admit to themselves that what they’re currently doing is simply not working. You can label it as pride or having a big ego, but whichever name you give it is usually the demise of every dream. If you know that drinking soda and eating 3 Krispy Kreme donuts a day while watching Atlanta house wives is deterring you from your 10 pound weight loss goal, then it’s time to switch it up!
What will the next 10 years of your life look like? Will you continue to work at that job that you hate or stay in that toxic relationship that has drained every ounce of good energy that you have left? What I know for sure is if we continue to do the same things we’ve always done, we will continue to get the same things we’ve always gotten. Babe, you deserve to become the very best version of yourself! So go into this New Year with 2020 vision of the new and improved you. Your future self will thank you.